It’s Just One Night

It’s Just One Night

If you are ever standing in court and you hear those words, know this: It is never ‘just one night.’ One night can forever change the trajectory of a person’s life. One night could be the difference between life and death.

A Moment with a Scapegoat

A Moment with a Scapegoat

We all have roles in our families, the golden child, the hero, etc. I was none of those. I was the scapegoat. I was always held responsible for the ills of life but had no way of changing my fate or the fate of others.

Sorry About That

Sorry About That

As a recovering over-apologizer, I notice more when people apologize. Especially when it is for things they shouldn’t apologize for because there is no need. Are you trying something new? Don’t apologize for being bad at it.

Rebuilding My Foundation

Rebuilding My Foundation

My childhood instability stayed with me throughout adulthood. I built a better, more stable foundation once I realized I lived in an unstable house.

Bearing Witness Leads to Purpose

Bearing Witness Leads to Purpose

Can I thrive? Am I able to leave behind or move through the foundation of my life, of who I am? Those are the questions I have. And bearing witness to the stories of other survivors gives me the hope I need to push forward and thrive.

What Would It Be Like to Have Ultimate Power?

What Would It Be Like to Have Ultimate Power?

I realized the connection between being a victim and having my boundaries ignored (or forgotten) because of white male privilege. The more I thought about this, the more I realized that throughout history, white male privilege had provided an avenue for one group of people to victimize and marginalize anyone who doesn’t look like them.