One of the wounds that I am trying to heal is one to myself. For years I internalized the abuse I endured growing up. As I work on those wounds, I realized how much I have been betraying myself.
I remember thinking that I would be letting so many down if I didn’t keep doing what I was doing – making them happy and making sure they were pleased. What was going on was that I was letting myself down, and worse, I was hurting myself.
I never realized that being a people-pleaser is not a good thing. I suppose in order for me to realize that I would have also had to realize that I was engaging in that very thing. People-pleasing ends up making everyone involved miserable.